“Be kinder to yourself” is advice I give fairly often. I also think it’s advice we sometimes misunderstand. Self-compassion has become associated with slowing down, giving yourself grace, lowering expectations and accepting that you’re doing your best. All of those things can be important, particularly if you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, neurodivergent, living with chronic illness or have spent years speaking to yourself in a way you would never dream of speaking to another per

I hadn't expected Jason Arday to be the subject of my first blog post. But his death raises uncomfortable questions about racism, autism, public shaming and whether accountability can lose sight of the human being.